Your Goals are Boring. Get New Ones.

Cold Facts: some of your goals are boring.

Not because you’re boring. Not because you’re not ambitious or capable. But because they’re stale. Worn out. Hand-me-downs you never questioned.

You know the ones:

• “Lose 10 pounds.”

• “Fit into my old jeans.”

• “Tone up.”

Sound familiar? These aren’t goals. These are vague hopes built on outdated expectations and diet ads from 2003.

Now before you come for me, let’s get something straight: there is nothing wrong with wanting to feel better in your body. Nothing wrong with fat loss or strength or aesthetic goals.

But if you’re dragging yourself to the gym every week chasing the same goal you’ve been setting since 2009 and you’re still miserable doing it? It might not be the goal that needs more discipline. It might be the wrong goal altogether.

So ask yourself this:

“Is this goal even mine?”

Because somewhere along the way, "fitness" became synonymous with thinness. Health got confused with appearance. And we started picking goals like we pick salad dressings: whatever seems safest, whatever keeps people off our backs, whatever sounds good out loud.

You know what would be more interesting than "losing 10 pounds"?

• Getting strong enough to carry your own luggage across the airport without help.

• Running a 5K with your kid just because you can.

• Doing a full pull-up after years of believing you never could.

• Not panicking when you miss a workout, because your life isn’t ruled by guilt.

That stuff? That’s fire. That’s a goal you wake up thinking about.

If your current goals feel more like homework than excitement, consider this your permission slip to throw them out. Rebuild from scratch. What do you actually want?

Not what social media says. Not what your mom wants for you. Not what your coworker is doing with her MLM meal plan.

What do you want to feel? How do you want to move? What kind of life do you want your fitness to support?

Because if your goal is to weigh less but you’re sacrificing sleep, happiness, food freedom, or sanity to get there… is that really the win you think it is?

Let’s reframe:

• “I want to feel confident walking into a gym.”

• “I want to be strong enough to move furniture without throwing out my back.”

• “I want to climb a damn mountain at 50.”

• “I want to feel like myself again.”

Those are real. They have substance. They hit a little deeper.

And yes, they still require discipline. Yes, you still have to work for them. But they don’t rely on shame. They don’t start from "not good enough."

They start from a place of want, not should.

Big difference.

Because here’s the truth: should-based goals never last. They come with obligation, not ownership. They sound good but feel like a chore. And eventually, they fade out—because your soul is allergic to performing for approval.

So if you’re stuck, spinning your wheels, or not making progress, ask yourself:

What would I chase if no one was watching?

That’s the good stuff. That’s the goal worth chasing.

Your goals don’t have to be revolutionary. But they should matter to you. They should make you feel alive, not boxed in.

So yeah. Maybe your goals are boring.

Cool. Get new ones.

Mediocre goals won’t get you an extraordinary life.